Decision 1
Who carries?
One of you, both of you, or both of you trying together? Each has emotional and practical implications. There's no right answer, just the one that fits you both.
For two · Two mums
Building your family, your way.
There are decisions you'll make that opposite-sex couples never even encounter, decisions like - who carries, what kind of donor, how you'll talk about it later. They're not problems to solve. They're the work of designing your family on your own terms.
Note from us
You're talking to the people who built this brand because of the path we took to parenthood.
Hapū Helpers exists because the two of us (Taryn and Kat) wanted to start our family. Our journey, our story, and everything we wished we'd had became this business. So when we say we get it: we mean it literally.
AU legal note: if you're using home insemination with a known donor and are in a civil union or marriage, your partner is generally recognised as the second legal parent at birth, but the donor agreement should still be in writing, signed before insemination, ideally with legal review. This isn't optional. We recommend AU family lawyers who specialise in this, please check our support page.
A path through
The most common starting point for two-mum families.
Decide donor first
Known or sperm bank
Most decisions cascade from this one. Take time on it.
In parallel
Whoever carries should start tracking
Cycle data is gold for home insemination. Start now even if you're months from trying.
Then
Home insemination
Where most same-sex families start. Lower cost, more privacy, more control.
Always
Lean on community
Other two-mum families who've done this, they're our deepest support resource.